In every conversation, especially in conversations about systemic power (race, class, gender, etc.), we know that each person comes into contact with different levels of lived experience and embodied expertise. We also believe that anyone can contribute to the conversation. This agreement requires that we all practice being humble and paying attention to what we need to learn from each person in space. He invites us to share what we know, as well as our questions, so that others can learn from us. We have found that most of the time, in the rooms we allow, when someone does or says something that causes damage or supports the values of oppressive systems, it is not their intention to do so. But if we use our good intentions to deny (or avoid) the damage of being responsible for it), there will be more damage. The demand of this Community agreement is that we all do the work to recognise that our intention and the impact of our actions are two different things and to take responsibility for any negative effects we have. (This can be as simple as an apology.) Community agreements help define your role as a moderator and clarify the group`s expectations of you. One of your main tasks vis-à-vis the group is to ensure that these agreements are respected. It`s not about making rules – it`s about establishing and clarifying agreements and expectations that allow everyone in the group to participate. For them to be useful, they must come from the group itself.
Once a group has established its agreements, they can be used again and again. As a moderator, you can also contribute to this list. Also think about whether the work should be divided into other parts. The definition of Community agreements or basic rules can encourage a better dialogue with itself, the group and the Community. As Monica Brasov-Curca told me on Facebook: ”During a wonderful dialogue training, the coach divided the basic exercise into 3 parts. 1.) Community Agreement 2.) Workshop conditions 3.) The intentions of the participants. And the three of us contributed to the creation. It`s really beautiful. These deals were made by Ferananda Ibarra, Chris Corrigan, Krisztina Kun, Trilby Smith, Katy Golinsky, Gray Miller Creative, Ankit Chhabra, wolf, Nadja Petranovskaja, Brandy Agerbeck, Natalie Ord, Monica Brasov-Curca, Christine Martell, Jill Banting, Rachel Marcuse, Ken Lima-Coelho, Mark Busse, Julie Gieseke For groups that work together over a long period of time, it may be worth getting a little more time to develop a longer-term group agreement. To have to spend. You can use a process like this….